The Fuck Buddy Effect

I’m likely to offend some people by writing this but part of me doesn’t care and it’s only my personal option so don’t get your panties in a twist.

The question is are you truly old enough to dominate and submit at 20 years old?

I have taken some time to mull this over as when something gets me annoyed and irritated I feel putting pen to paper instantly would be futile.  So I sat down and thought about it.  Let me take a moment to explain the situation and how this blog came about.  The submissive I played with had a 20 year old female Domme and after one session with me his Domme decided he wasn’t allowed to play out anymore.  I wouldn’t have been as bothered if I wasn’t aware that not only did she dominate him but she fucked him to. She basically treated him as her submissive fuck buddy.

When I was 20 years old what was I getting up to?  I know for a fact I wasn’t dominating or submitting to anyone, well not sexually anyway.  I was exploring sex but not giving or receiving spanks, ok maybe a few little smacks but by having sex in cars and in potato fields (FYI don’t wear white trousers for that one) or trying to ride reverse cowgirl because I was drunk and thought I was a pornstar.  I had a fuck buddy he had blonde hair, blue eyes and great teeth, he was absolutely gorgeous.  We would go out every weekend and come back and fuck. It was the routine for about 5 months.  He wasn’t my boyfriend and we didn’t go on dates, he was just my fuck buddy.  Then one day he decided to not come home with me but stayed out and went back with another girl.  I was completely devastated.  Why? Because he was mine.  Inevitably a guy in his 20’s who didn’t want a girlfriend was always going find someone else to fuck.

The moral of that story is I wasn’t really mature enough to understand the dynamic of that relationship.  Don’t get me wrong we can all catch feelings.  What feelings did I have for Mr Fuck Buddy? Well I liked him and I wanted him to keep fucking me and I got jealous with just the thought he could potentially sleep with another girl.  He was my fuck buddy and I didn’t want to share.  Now I enjoy sharing, sharing submissives.  I don’t know whether I would have wanted to share my husband but that was a completely different situation.  I’ve had enough sexual life experience to have a fuck buddy and not get jealous.  That might either be my personally or my maturity I don’t know.

The point is at 20 years old you have what? A few years sexual experience.  It is now so much easier to find yourself a fuck buddy with the wonderful help of the internet and thanks to the World Wide Web we can all become kinksters at a young age. Are 20 year olds mentally ready to dominate someone?  To see a submissive over and over and not feel jealousy if they choose to explore with another Domme?  To be a submissive and to not get feelings for your Domme?  I know my previous posts have talked about my feelings towards some of my submissive but in no way were they similar feelings to Mr Fuck Buddy. They were feelings of annoyance and irritation that people do not have the common courtesy to do some things in what I believe is the correct manner.

My conclusion is that at 20 years old I believe you are too young to dominate and whole heartily submit but should and will that stop it happening? No because it’s only my option.  Maybe I’m slightly jealous that I didn’t start as young or I’m jealous I’m having to compete against 20 year olds, I’m neither.  I’m happy I started dominating when I did because I feel I’ve gained some life and sexual experience prior and I will always be competing not just against 20 year olds but against woman in the 40’s and 50’s because they have more experience than me.

Catch flights not feelings GIRLS and GUYS. Watch out for those young kinksters.

14 thoughts on “The Fuck Buddy Effect

  1. Completely agree. I can’t help but laugh at any d- type younger than 25. I’m just starting to get comfortable and familiar in my roles and various types of relationships. Now, some may have been learning about D/s from mentors for years, but that is rare and unlikely. Do you even know who you are or what you want at 20? I sure didn’t

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    1. Thank you for your solidarity. The chances are the only D/s mentor they have received at 20 is from youporn.

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      1. 😂😂😂I giggle snorted

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  2. Thank you for sharing:
    Although we have different brands of Female Domination I enjoy reading your blog. At 20 I was so immature, I did not know anything about this lifestyle. I love you younger Women are understanding you can control your future thru Dom. I am in a 24/7 Femdom relationship and only have one sub, my husband. I have been leading him for around 5 years. If I were smarter I would have started at your age.. I would have taken control from the beginning.
    D

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    1. I’m glad you enjoy the blog. Hindsight is fantastic thing. If I had started earlier I’d have more experience but I wouldn’t have experienced what I know now. I’m sure you feel the same in your marriage. I hope one day I can meet someone worthy 24/7 domination.
      V x

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      1. Oh yes, my marriage is unbelievable. He is very worthy of serving me. He was always good but since the switch he is the perfect husband. We have 25 years the last 5 he has been converted to full sub . Sexually I get a little devious, it seems more so each month. He gives everything to me and for me including financial control. Its funny he is no sissy in the world, at home or with me he is my little pleaser. I used him pretty hard last night so this morning when I got up he had made a homemade cake for me before he went to work. His response for my rough treatment.
        Thanks for listening
        D

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      2. That sounds so fantastic. I’m completely jealous. I enjoy reading our blog. I will definitely tell you if i steal any of your moves.
        V x

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  3. This entire blog is really interesting; well done! and Best of Luck!

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  4. I agree with you. I think you might be able to be submissive at 20–though you wouldn’t know very much, but to be dominant that young? Not really a good idea. A good dominant has some life experiences. 20 year olds are just starting life and don’t have enough experience as a general rule.

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    1. I completely agree. Some men like the idea of being dominated by someone younger… 20 years old is young.

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  5. Loving thus blog. And I must espress my aporeciation for women of experience. 🙂
    Warmly
    Michael

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      1. And thank you for following Elwoodblog.
        I really need to start using it.
        Seeking motivation. 🙂
        Warmly,
        Michael
        elwoodmichael28@gmail.com

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      2. Yeah you really need to embrace it. But also only blog when you feel you have something worth blogging.

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