Dating as a Mistress

I have been properly single for 3 years.  I’ve had some short term relationships but nothing substantial. I got married young but I don’t regret it. We got married because it was the next stage in our relationship. Our marriage didn’t last long over time we became separate people and wanted different things in our futures. Another huge factor was our sex life, it was non existent not because of me may I add but him. He never wanted sex. I would dress up and try it on as often as possible but to no avail. I didn’t want our relationship to end because of infidelity on my part so I ended it. After that I settled into single life and started to explore my sexuality.  Three years on and I’m a fully pledged Mistress. My family always ask why I haven’t met anyone yet to which I blame work and my busy life style. So this year I made a promise to try for them. So I arranged with the girls to go speed dating. A good reason to get the girls together but also to aid in this quest to find a man.

I dated a guy for a while before i knew i wanted to be a Mistress. He loved sex and everything inbetween.  He was the first guy i ever pegged, he was the guy i did many kink firsts with unfortunately i don’t think his wife would have been massively on board with us dating so it came to an abrupt end.  I dated two guys afterwards and instantly found myself taking control.  Neither of them complained to be fair.

Dating when all you really want is to bend the guy over your knee is harder than expected. Do I tell them about my kinky side and lay the cards straight out or do I play the run of the mill submissive woman. Being very independent is hard for men, some say they want and love an independent woman but once they meet one they tend to change their minds. They want to feel like the alpha male, the dominant. I want all these things in a guy just not in the bedroom.

The lucky thing about speed dating is your dates only last 4 minutes so they don’t get the chance to ask you any deep and meaningful questions because by the time they have asked the basics the whistle blows. Don’t get me wrong first impressions are everything and it is true i knew pretty much instantly which guys i would and wouldn’t date.  I few guys asked what i liked to do for fun in my spare time, the first time it did take me a while to answer.  What do i like to do in my spare time… umm i love to dominate men, go to fetish and kink parties, meet up with like minded people and write a blog about my mistress lifestyle. I think my answer was traveling which isn’t a lie but was definitely not the answer i was thinking about. Out of the 17 men I dated that night I think I only found one attractive, yes i know looks aren’t everything but you still need to feel some tingle or what’s the point.

New plan ditch speed dating, tinder, bumble and all the rest of these dating sites and maybe date kink.  At least we will have something in common and i won’t have to hide all my whips and chains.

I have lined up a date with a slice of kink… wish me luck.


8 thoughts on “Dating as a Mistress

  1. Bon courage Mistress Victoire.

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  2. I really like your style and your ability to not settle, don’t, you can find an alpha that you can tame, one you can peg too. I speak from solid experience. Thanks for sharing

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    1. Thank you. It’s good to know. I can’t wait to meet him 😉. V x

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  3. Reblogged this on dave94015 and commented:
    Can you vanilla date…when you really want to dominate a guy?

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  4. A dominant woman has a personality so unlike the unwritten code of behavior for conventional dating situations that it would probably turn off a prospective date if he knew you wanted to dominate guys. If you attend a kink event and flash some dominance toward a guy you might be interested in and his eyes light up…you may get a date going in the direction you’d like.

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    1. I completely agree with your statement there. I’ve decided to steer towards fetish based men. Fingers crossed 🤞🏼

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      1. And how has it gone for you 2 months later? A few fetish fairs & domCons will be coming up soon!

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  5. I’ve been sticking to fetish men but unfortunately no one interesting has caught my eye as yet.


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